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When your family loses its only, or an important, source of income, it can seem like the end of the world. Finances usually take center stage; expenses that never worried you before will suddenly loom as ominous clouds. How will you pay the mortgage or keep up with your insurance and utility bills? Luxuries you could afford last week - dining out, vacations, summer camp, and similar enjoyments - will necessarily grind to a screeching halt.

In addition, if you were the infallible breadwinner, and you temporarily can't provide for your loved ones (at least in the manner to which they've been accustomed), members of your household can suffer a crisis of faith.

  • Your self-esteem may take a nose-dive and you're likely to be overwhelmed with guilt.
  • If you're suddenly around the home most of the time when you were historically an unobtrusive or even "invisible" figure, you may find yourself in the way.
  • You may even find yourself feeling like a "dead weight" or the family's fifth wheel.
  • PIT members frequently encounter overwhelming embarrassment and shame in response to the burden they feel they've now become to the working spouse and the household.
Regardless of the details, your family needs to be prepared to deal with a host of changes, and that will pose challenges for everyone concerned. However, if you understand the issues that are likely to arise - particularly your family's feelings of "powerlessness" and the "rising tensions" in your household - and prepare yourself to handle them, you'll be well on your way toward successfully guiding your family through the reemployment process.

If you're privileged enough (like I was) to be surrounded by supportive family members, you'll have a "grounding force" while you're unemployed.

  • Your spouse, children, and other close relatives can help you keep your problems in perspective by reminding you that life exists beyond the business world and ensuring that you don't have to face the uncertain future alone.
  • In addition, your family can help provide the stability and continuity you crave while you're unemployed and as you make the transition from your old job to your new one.
  • You can help your spouse, children, and other relatives cope with the short-term changes they face while you're seeking reemployment.
  • It is important to nurture (or redevelop if at all possible) a solid domestic foundation, and maximize your family's chances of emerging from the reemployment experience whole and ready to face whatever challenges and opportunities lie ahead together.

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